Last month we talked about how interconnected our feelings are. If we want to feel more joy, then we need to be willing to feel everything else as well. Basically by feeling our emotions fully, we are stretching our capacity to tolerate them. This would include joy.
One of the other things that can get in the way of joy is the
fact that we are creatures of habit who DO NOT LIKE CHANGE.
How you ask? Well, if we can agree that the majority of us are striving for more joy in our lives then we must also admit that there is some degree of suffering. And if we are living with some degree of suffering and we don’t like change then where does that leave us? Stuck? Complacent?
So whatever degree you may feel unfulfilled or unhappy in your life is the place you will naturally begin attaching to. Many people numb out, avoid or deny that there is anything wrong. Some people just settle or only focus on how to become happier without taking a deep look into what’s getting in the way. It’s like building a house on sand. And I get it. It can feel daunting or scary to really take a look at what is going on underneath the surface.
As the Indigo Girls so eloquently put it,
“I wrap my fear around me like a blanket.
I sailed my ship of safety till I sank it, I'm crawling on your shore.”
And that is exactly what we do. Better to deal with the devil you know then the one you don’t. In other words we become comfortable in our relative suffering, thus unwilling to change. This creates the illusion of safety that keeps us from venturing out into the unknown. Even if the unknown has great promise. Look at Columbus from instance. Most believed that the world was flat so no one would dare sail past a certain point for fear of falling to their death. Until good old Chris came along and took a risk, sailed into the unknown and the rest is history.
So if we become so cozy where we are and all of a sudden that same pesky genie comes along granting us an abundance of joy, would you dare to say yes?
Hope you enJOY the rest of your summer!